While this question is often an extremely complicated one, the first step is to identify what “stage” your man is in at that particular point in his life. When I say stage, I mean that all men go through 3 stages for what they are looking for from women. These 3 stages differ from man to man and are often based on the man's maturity level.
One stage is the "dog stage". This stage is where men just want to have sex with as many women as possible, as fast as possible. They don’t really care about the woman's feelings at all.
Another stage is "the player stage". This stage is when a man finds someone who he’s interested in settling down with but he still wants to have his fun on the side while dealing with multiple other women.
The last stage is "The wifey stage". This is when a man is truly interested in finding a wife or a girlfriend and really being committed to her. I'm not saying that men won't cheat during this stage, but it's not what he’s setting out to do mentally.
When it comes to the question of how long a man will wait for sex when dating a woman, it depends on what stage he’s in. If he's in the "dog stage" then you'll be lucky if he waits a week.
If he's in the “player stage” it many be a little longer but not much longer.
If he is in the “wifey stage” and is truly ready to settle down with someone who he wants to spend the rest of his life with, he’ll wait as long as it takes.
The best advice that I could give a woman when dating a man is not to give it up too soon. No matter what the guy says, he won’t respect you if you do. Men have ways of saying whatever they need to say to get what they want, so its best for all women not to give it up for a while. What’s a while, you might ask? If it doesn’t seem like a long time and your man hasn’t started complaining, then it’s too soon.
Not getting sex immediately may annoy and frustrate your man at first, but in the long run, he’ll respect you a lot more... even if he doesn’t talk to you anymore. Depending on the stage he’s in, he may decide to just cut you off completely and move on to his next conquest, but at least you found that out before you gave it up to him and added another “notch on your belt”.
My point is that, some men are just looking for sex when dating women. That’s the ultimate goal most times. Very few women will actually come out and say “I’m easy” and most of the time they’ll say things like “I haven’t had sex in 2 years” or “I’m waiting until marriage to have sex”. While all that sounds good... most women are full of crap when it comes to sex. They just want the man to believe they’re saving themselves so he’ll do the necessary things to get “it”.
Once the woman finally gives it up, she often says things like “I can’t believe I did this” or “I usually don’t give it up this quickly”.
I realize that all women aren’t this way but unfortunately, many women are so it’s very important to differentiate yourself from many women that your man has, most likely, met that carry themselves that way.
One of the most common and worst mistakes a woman can make when in a committed relationship is crowding their man and preventing him from hanging out and having fun with his friends.
Very few things are worse than a woman nagging us about spending enough time with our woman. What some women fail to realize is... a man is going to do what he truly wants to do; whether that’s spending time with you, or going out to a club with his friends. All you can do is be the best girlfriend you can be and hope for the best.
Arguing about not spending enough time together is pointless. If your man isn't chilling with you enough, that probably means there's a bigger problem. Most likely, he's just not that into you and dealing with someone else. If a guy is feeling you, you definitely don't have to worry about him not being around enough. Nagging him will just make the guy want to stay away more.
Even when a relationship is going well, you still need to have “voluntary time apart". This is time that you technically could be spending together but you just choose to do other things. Some examples of voluntary time apart are: on a Friday night when neither of you has plans or on a Sunday afternoon after church.
Fellas, go get a few drinks with your boys and tell your lady, don’t wait up. Ladies, tell your man that your having a night out with the girls and you’ll hang out with him tomorrow. Trust me. These types of excursions will help keep your relationship fresh.
Work hours don't count as voluntary time apart because you both are forced to be apart by work. This voluntary time apart will definitely strengthen the relationship because its true when they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Women not having a life of their own is a recipe for disaster. If your man is out having fun and all you're doing is sitting home text messaging him all night, that is going to get annoying after a while. Get a life of your own and trust your man not to be doing things he shouldn't be when he's out and about.
One of the most important things to avoid in relationships, is getting too comfortable. You always want to keep that spark there. If you don’t the consequences will be severe. Women as well as men get comfortable after a few years or sometimes even after a few months of being in a committed relationship. People getting comfortable in relationships can be a very negative thing and often leads to someone or both people feeling neglected.
In the beginning of relationships, both people want to put their best foot forward in every way especially when it comes to sex. It’s natural to want to “put it on” their mate to get the other hooked. After a while ,though, once you know you have that person where you want them, you’re less inclined to put that extra effort forth, which is why it’s so important to find new and creative ways to keep the relationship fresh. Find new things to do to get that spark back. In relationships, both parties should always be dying to get their hands on each other.
This is how things would be in a perfect world but we all know that, unfortunately, that’s not always the case. When one party is always tired and is suddenly uninterested in sex, you have to consider the possibility that your mate has been or is planning on being unfaithful A drastic change in sexual behavior is one of the main signs that your mate is cheating. You should never have to beg or do certain things to get your woman in bed. It should be natural and flow smoothly. If it doesn’t, then that’s a serious problem that needs to be addressed immediately. There’s probably a deeper problem that’s causing her unwillingness to give it up.
You might ask yourself what you’re doing wrong? You might not be doing anything wrong. Some people just have it in their nature to cheat. You may be doing some things that your mate may not like or that he/she would like you to do differently, but after two years, they should be used to them and have accepted them about you. If they haven’t by that point, then she probably never will and you might need to ask yourself if there’s someone else out there better for you.
In a previous relationship, I had a similar problem. I was with someone who I felt didn’t appreciate who I was or what I was worth. I had women throwing themselves at me and worshiping the ground I walked on who were always telling me what a good guy I was; but I could never get that from my girlfriend. After a while, I had to say to myself, I’m better than this and I don’t want to settle for someone who doesn’t truly know how good they have it.
To all the ladies out there, you need to realize that good men are the minority and women are definitely the majority, so when you come across a good man, you need to let him know that he’s a good man or another woman will.
In closing, I don’t think you can ever know for sure a man’s true intentions but I think that there are a few rules of thumb that, if followed correctly, will make seeing his true intentions a little easier.
Hopefully, I’ve shed some light on this subject for you.